Have you been arguing about everything lately?
Are you almost thinking of
giving up on the man you swore to be with for the rest of your life?
You
can fix your marriage before it's too late.
Small things matter. It could be something minor like if you said that you'd be cleaning the car after lunch, make sure that you do it. It can also be something of a big deal like if you promised you would no t commit the same mistake again, do everything that you can so you won't.
Keeping one's word may be difficult at times, but it is the only way how we can build trust. We can't get someone's trust overnight; we have to earn it by doing what you said you would.
2. Accept criticism with your heart.
We only hear what we want to hear and see what we want to see because the truth hurts. We have to learn how to accept our faults and learn how to be better. Your spouse would definitely tell you what's good and what's bad about you because they love you.
No matter how painful it is, accept criticisms and be thankful for them. These are opportunities that will make you a better person.
3. Don't let your emotions get in the way.
If you are stressed with all the fights, you're tired, mad, hurt or whatever it is, the first thing you'd do is release all your emotions. You cry, scream or even curse. These are normal however, it doesn't also mean it is right.
When you are full of negative emotions, it is best that you give yourself time to keep your composure before you talk to your spouse.
4. Think before your talk.
This happens after the previous one. As soon as you are able to control your emotions, you can now talk to him. This could make or break the whole point of the conversation. Avoid using phrases like "you should have, I hate it when, the problem is, what I want is, and it is your fault that. The list is long so just remember to think about what you plan to say before you move your lips.
5. Set your mind straight.
Speaking of "thinking before talking", it will also help if you have thought about what you want say.
Here's an outline that you can use.
a. Tell him you love him.
b. Tell him how you feel.
c. Tell him what you hope to accomplish after the talk.
d. Tell him you can do to make everything better.
6. Learn how to Trust.
If you find it difficult to trust him 100%, trust him with small things first. As I have mentioned at the beginning of this list, Trust is not achieved overnight. It is earned with the small and simple things that we do.
Do you find yourself
trying to sleep with unresolved conflicts?
Love is present in every marriage. It is the primary reason why you got married in the first place. However love is not enough. We also need two more: Trust and Respect. If love is present without one of these two that I mentioned, your marriage is on the danger zone.
There are six ways to save your marriage.
1. Keep your promise.Small things matter. It could be something minor like if you said that you'd be cleaning the car after lunch, make sure that you do it. It can also be something of a big deal like if you promised you would no t commit the same mistake again, do everything that you can so you won't.
Keeping one's word may be difficult at times, but it is the only way how we can build trust. We can't get someone's trust overnight; we have to earn it by doing what you said you would.
2. Accept criticism with your heart.
We only hear what we want to hear and see what we want to see because the truth hurts. We have to learn how to accept our faults and learn how to be better. Your spouse would definitely tell you what's good and what's bad about you because they love you.
No matter how painful it is, accept criticisms and be thankful for them. These are opportunities that will make you a better person.
3. Don't let your emotions get in the way.
If you are stressed with all the fights, you're tired, mad, hurt or whatever it is, the first thing you'd do is release all your emotions. You cry, scream or even curse. These are normal however, it doesn't also mean it is right.
When you are full of negative emotions, it is best that you give yourself time to keep your composure before you talk to your spouse.
4. Think before your talk.
This happens after the previous one. As soon as you are able to control your emotions, you can now talk to him. This could make or break the whole point of the conversation. Avoid using phrases like "you should have, I hate it when, the problem is, what I want is, and it is your fault that. The list is long so just remember to think about what you plan to say before you move your lips.
5. Set your mind straight.
Speaking of "thinking before talking", it will also help if you have thought about what you want say.
Here's an outline that you can use.
a. Tell him you love him.
b. Tell him how you feel.
c. Tell him what you hope to accomplish after the talk.
d. Tell him you can do to make everything better.
6. Learn how to Trust.
If you find it difficult to trust him 100%, trust him with small things first. As I have mentioned at the beginning of this list, Trust is not achieved overnight. It is earned with the small and simple things that we do.
These are simple ways that you can do to save your marriage. Remember,
it should have three factors: Love, Trust and Respect. These are
essential to a bond stronger than paper.
