Friends play a very important role in our lives, your friends can
make or mar you depending on who they are. Here are some basic things
you should consider before letting people become your friend. Remember
you can be friendly to all but all must not be your friend.
People who share same positive values with you
Values
are very important when it comes to choosing your friends. Learn to
associate with people who share the same good values as yourself, this
will help you reduce conflicts in your friendship. Selecting people who
share the same values with you can only be possible if you are clear on
your personal values. So it starts with you, get clear on your values.
People who will tell you the truth always
Stay
close to people who are not afraid to tell you the truth about you,
sometimes the truth may hurt but it's better to be told. People who tell
you the truth are more sincere and they want the best for you. Flattery
is sweet but it is also very deceptive. If you plan to go far in life,
you need to surround yourself with very truthful people.
People who would support you during trying times
Real
friends stick with you through good times and bad times. There would be
days when things may not go as planned, there would be times when you
would need people to comfort you. There are those who would be there for
you, such are the people you should keep as friends, not those who are
there when it is all rosy and abscond during trying times.
People who believe in you
Select
people who believe in you, people who constantly help you to build
faith in yourself. Select friends who know your faults yet amplify your
good qualities. Sometimes all you need is the support of a close friend,
someone who would give you reasons why you can accomplish great things,
someone who would push you to try one more time. Draw close to such
people.Always remember, you can be a friendly person without necessarily making everyone your friend. Be good to people as much as you can, however only draw close to people who have the traits that have been described above. You should not be coerced into friendship and you should not feel guilty when you don't feel right about choosing people as friends. I hope this helps?
